Themes

Themes that may be addressed in coaching:

Self-image and identity

• Insecurity and low self-esteem
• A harsh inner critic
• Feelings of guilt and shame
• Comparing yourself to others
• Struggling to be your authentic self
• Lacking a clear sense of self

Relationships and attachment:

• Dependency on external validation
• Struggling to connect emotionally
• Painful patterns in (romantic) relationships
• Sensitivity to rejection and criticism
• Self-neglect
• Struggling to feel, express, or maintain boundaries

Emotion regulation:

• Emotional blocks
• Emotional overwhelm
• Difficulty feeling or expressing anger
• Self-sabotaging behavior
• Difficulty letting go
• Overthinking
• Anxiety-related difficulties

Direction and autonomy:

• Perfectionism
• A strong need for control
• Struggling to find life direction
• Feeling disconnected from your own needs and desires

Body and nervous system:

• Disconnection from the body
• Physical tension
• Chronic pain
• Chronic fatigue and emotional exhaustion
• Stress and burn-out
• Sleep difficulties

Trauma:

• Unresolved trauma
• Grief and loss

Individual coaching

The Intake
In a confidential setting, you can share your personal story. I listen without judgment and ask focused questions to help us explore together what truly matters to you.

During the intake session, we explore the wishes and/or challenges that are currently present in your life. Together, we define a clear and concrete goal, which serves as the guiding thread throughout the process. A coaching trajectory typically consists of around ten sessions. Depending on your process, I apply different methods at the appropriate moments. Throughout, we continuously explore together what best supports you.

Awareness of patterns and responses
The first step is always becoming aware of what is happening in the present moment. What thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are you experiencing? Which beliefs underlie them? This is where it becomes visible how old survival mechanisms still play a role. This awareness forms an important foundation for further change.

Working with the body, emotions, and the subconscious
After that, we focus on (re)connecting with your body and your emotions. Many people find that their nervous system has been under tension for a long time, for example due to trauma or prolonged stress. You learn to better recognize the signals of your body and respond to them in a way that supports you. By bringing attention to emotion regulation you learn to slow down and calm your nervous system. This creates more ease, resilience, and a greater sense of control in how you relate to emotions and situations.

Finally, we work layer by layer, gradually moving closer to the core. What matters most is that you feel safe and heard. That doesn’t mean it is always easy. Some insights can be painful, and it is human to want to avoid or deny that pain. Personal growth sometimes asks you to let go of old, familiar patterns and to allow the unknown to emerge.

Many clients say they understand it, but don’t truly feel it. To make that shift, experiential learning is essential. In a safe setting, we allow emotions and new, safe attachment experiences to be truly felt. From there, we can begin to transform negative beliefs at a deeper level. We work with the subconscious through visualization techniques and hypnotherapy.

Autonomy and strengthening your adult self
What many people don’t expect is that personal growth can also be a joyful experience. The process of self-development can be inspiring and bring a sense of pleasure and fulfillment. As you begin to identify less with your thoughts, emotions, and survival mechanisms, space opens up to relate to yourself with more gentleness, humor, and compassion. This brings perspective and a sense of ease.

What is beautiful about coaching is that it is rooted in your own autonomy and works with your healthy inner part. You are not a patient, but a client. With my guidance, you will further develop and strengthen this healthy part, your adult autonomous self. Because you arrive at the insights and experiences yourself, the change is deep and lasting.

I will regularly invite you to take notes, write reflections, or do exercises. How much you choose to invest in this is entirely up to you. At the same time, the more you engage with the process, the more space there is for growth and change.

As a professional coach and counselor, I adhere to the ethical code of conduct as defined by… NOBCO.

Curious about what individual coaching could offer you?
During a free 30-minute online introductory session, we have the opportunity to get to know each other. You can briefly share what you're struggling with and what you hope to achieve. I’ll tell you more about the way I work, and together we’ll explore whether my approach is a good fit for what you need. Click below to schedule a session.

Couples therapy

Attachment-Based Couples Therapy, Based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
I offer attachment-based couples therapy for couples who feel stuck in recurring patterns or are looking to deepen their connection. A relationship can be deeply fulfilling, but also painful and challenging. Precisely because an intimate relationship is so closely connected to our attachment system, old patterns and vulnerabilities can easily rise to the surface. In the dynamic with your partner, you often encounter the very same survival strategies that you developed earlier in life.

If you find yourselves getting stuck in the same conversations, emotions escalating or being pushed aside, or feeling as though you are losing connection with each other, couples therapy can bring a great deal of clarity and relief.

Many couples reach out for support when they begin to notice that they:

• keep getting stuck in the same patterns or arguments
• experience more distance or silence than connection
• no longer feel emotionally connected to one another
• find themselves living alongside each other rather than together
• remain caught in pain, disappointment, or hurt feelings
• experience differences in their need for closeness or space
• feel tension around intimacy, sexuality, or different stages of life
• long for greater safety, openness, and emotional connection

What happens beneath the surface
Partners often touch each other's most sensitive places. This is completely natural, because that is precisely how attachment works. When you become triggered, your nervous system shifts into old survival strategies: fighting, withdrawing, freezing, or pleasing. These strategies can show up in many different ways. When both partners move into survival mode, a pattern can emerge in which it becomes increasingly difficult to truly reach one another.

Beneath these reactions lie emotions, needs, and fears that often remain unseen or unspoken. In EFT, these deeper experiences are brought together in one central attachment question: “Are you there for me?”

How couples therapy can help
In my couples therapy, I work from the perspectives of attachment, nervous system regulation, and interventions based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In EFT, we focus on the underlying emotions and attachment needs that lie beneath your interaction patterns. Together, we explore how you respond to one another and the deeper longings, needs, and fears that underlie these patterns. From there, we work towards a relationship characterised by secure attachment, respectful communication, and greater awareness of both your own needs and those of your partner.

We slow down, explore what is happening beneath the surface, and create a safe space in which both partners can feel heard, seen, and emotionally regulated. From this sense of safety, there is room for new, positive experiences with one another.

Alongside EFT, I integrate elements of Transactional Analysis, Nonviolent Communication, and body-based regulation exercises. This helps you not only understand what is happening between you, but also feel and experience it.

When is couples therapy helpful?
Many couples only seek support once their relationship has become deeply entangled and painful. Yet in many cases, the earlier you explore together what is happening between you, the gentler and safer the path forward becomes.

Couples therapy can also be highly valuable for couples who already have healthy relationship patterns but would like to deepen their connection or learn to communicate more consciously.

I work with couples from Geldrop, Eindhoven, the surrounding region, and throughout the Netherlands via online sessions. I am fluent in English, and international couples are also warmly welcome.

When couples therapy is (not yet) the right fit
In some situations, couples therapy is not the most helpful or safest form of support at that moment. This may be the case, for example, when there is an ongoing affair that has not yet ended, or when one of the partners first needs individual support, such as for severe addiction problems or significant mental health difficulties. We will carefully explore this together during the initial consultation.

Curious about what couples therapy could offer you?
During a free 30-minute online introductory session, there is an opportunity to get to know each other. You can briefly share what you're struggling with and what you hope to achieve. I’ll tell you more about the way I work, and together we’ll explore whether my approach is a good fit for what you need. Click below to schedule a session.

Hypnotherapy

The way you experience yourself and the world around you shapes the way your world looks and feels..

What is hypnotherapy?
Hypnotherapy is a powerful and scientifically supported method, and is considered the most evidence-based form of alternative medicine. It uses hypnosis to induce a state of deep relaxation and heightened focus. In this state, it's possible to access the subconscious mind – the place where the roots of our emotions, habits, and beliefs are stored.

Hypnosis is a state of awareness, somewhere between waking and sleeping, that most people naturally experience on a regular basis. It is best described as a trance or a state of focused attention. You might compare it to daydreaming. For example, the kind of concentration you have when driving a car: sometimes you realize you’ve missed entire stretches of the highway and have already arrived at your destination. In this state, you are more receptive to learning, transformation, and healing.

How can hypnotherapy help you?
Hypnotherapy can support you in dealing with stress and anxiety, help you sleep better, or let go of old habits like smoking or emotional eating. It can also strengthen your self-confidence, support you in processing grief or trauma, and guide you in developing new, healthy patterns. Even with physical issues such as chronic pain or Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), hypnotherapy can bring relief – as these conditions often have a strong psychological component.

How does hypnosis work?
Our daily functioning is largely driven by the subconscious mind. It has an almost unlimited capacity and is responsible for our emotions, automatic reactions, and deeply ingrained habits. From birth – and even before – it stores all information in a neutral way, much like a hard drive. Behavioral patterns are then developed based on this stored data.

Our conscious mind, on the other hand, focuses on the here and now. It’s responsible for logical thinking, problem-solving, and willpower — but its capacity is limited: we can consciously process only about 7 to 9 things at a time. Since around 95% of our behaviors and reactions are automatically driven by the subconscious, willpower alone is often not enough to change deeply rooted patterns. You’ve probably noticed that already!

An essential part of the conscious mind is the critical factor. It functions like a firewall, comparing new information to what is already stored in the subconscious. Information that doesn’t match is usually rejected. While this protects us from unnecessary change, it can also get in the way when we want to adopt new patterns.

Hypnosis reduces the activity of the critical faculty, allowing positive suggestions to be accepted directly by the subconscious – as long as they align with your values and will. This makes it possible to break through deeply ingrained habits and beliefs, and to develop new, positive patterns. Because the subconscious works quickly and efficiently, hypnotherapy often leads to surprisingly fast and lasting results.

Are you curious to experience this powerful method for yourself? Or would you simply like to learn more? I look forward to exploring together what hypnotherapy could mean for you.

Methods

In my work, I combine conversational techniques with body-based and experiential approaches, including:

Awareness & communication

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
• Transactional Analysis (TA)
• Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
• Nonviolent (compassionate) communication

Regulation & body-based work

• Breathing
• Somatic work
• Polyvagal Theory
• Yin
• Reiki

Inner work, attachment, and relationships

• Inner Voice Dialogue
• Inner child work
• Systemic Work
• Hypnotherapy
• ERV (Unilateral Relationship Improvement)
• EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)

→ Read more about my approach within individual coaching

→ Read more about my approach within couples therapy

A selection of methods I work with

Imagine your emotions as pots on the stove. When the heat gets too high, they can start to boil over – and that’s when you risk losing control. Emotion regulation techniques from the Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) help you stay in charge of your emotions, thoughts, and behavior – even in difficult moments. By consciously slowing down, you begin to see that you don’t have to fall into automatic reactions. You have a choice in how you respond.

The method Transactional Analysis is a powerful and accessible method for analyzing human interactions. It offers insight into the communication patterns we tend to use and makes it easier to see where misunderstandings or conflicts arise. TA helps you make conscious choices in how you communicate – which is not only enlightening, but also surprisingly fun to explore!